Second Sunrise Therapy PLLC
Lydia Storey-Lopez, MA, LPC, LAC * EMDRIA Certified * 25+ Years Experience
What I Help With · Relationships

Relationship Patterns

When the same patterns keep showing up.

Relationships can bring out protective patterns that are difficult to see while you are inside them.

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What may be happening

There is usually more underneath the symptom.

Attachment patterns, boundaries, communication, conflict, people-pleasing, withdrawal, and fear of abandonment can all shape how we connect. Understanding the pattern is the beginning—not the end—of changing it.

You do not have to arrive with the perfect explanation or diagnosis. We can start with what you are noticing now and make sense of the pattern together.

How I work with this

Understanding first. Change at a pace that fits.

We can slow down the moments when the pattern activates, notice what your mind and body are trying to protect, and practice responses that create more choice and connection.

My approach may draw from EMDR, parts/ego-state work, nervous-system regulation, ACT, CBT, and other evidence-informed strategies depending on what fits you.

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Why Do I Keep Repeating the Same Relationship Patterns?

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You may recognize yourself here

You don't have to be in crisis to begin.

You keep having the same argument in different relationships.
You move toward people when anxious or away when overwhelmed.
You have trouble trusting even when you want to.
You often take responsibility for the emotional climate around you.
You want healthier relationships without losing yourself inside them.
Your Next Chapter

Maybe this is your second sunrise.

You don't have to know exactly what's wrong before you reach out.

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